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Wage Theft, Bail Reform, and the US Prison System

Talking points

White collar wage theft by companies of employees money is greater than theft.

Over 60% of incarcerated individuals make less than $12,000/year.

Bail reform reduces crime where it’s implemented.

The for-profit bail system incarcerates impoverished people who can’t pay bill, fines, or fees and puts them to work to generate 11.6 billion dollars worth of products/services.

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The Dangerous Rhetoric of “Just Put a Woman in Charge”

There are so many things wrong with this thinking that for a long time I could barely process it. I did what I usually do with overwhelming stupidity, and placed it on a back burner to let it reduce into a coherent flavorful reduction.

This phrase/thinking is bad for men, bad for women, and bad for society.

Let’s unpack first how it’s bad for women.

Some feminist women love this phrase. Marginalized for so long from power, they are starving for a chance to prove themselves in power, and this phrase suggests blindly turning over power to any woman, every woman, at every turn any time, any place etc. Are you beginning to see how troubling this is?

For people, and often I hear this from men who want to be seen as feminists or disenfranchised women who have perhaps not met women in charge, whom this is the benchmark, one mistake, a wrong turn, one peep of a human failing and the whole ideology collapses to become ‘never again.’

When we say we want equality, it must mean equal accountability, equal forgiveness for mistakes, equal understanding that not every woman will bring the same level of intelligence, experience, and abilities to every power position, therefore we must consider these things when choosing our powerful woman leaders in politics, business, and society.

This rhetoric is a trap for woman. Do not buy into it.

This rhetoric is bad for men. It dismisses an entire gender as incapable of doing better, and therefore absolves men from having to do the work. The real work. Men who ‘cannot be trusted with power because they are men’ do not have to learn empathy, compassion, flexibility. They do not have to become better feminists, less racist, less patriarchal because ‘Gee, they’re men and can’t help it, so just let the women handle it.’

This rhetoric is a copout for men. Do not buy into it.

Society needs to make changes, and polarism is not good for a central starting point. For the above reasons combined, the ‘Just put a woman in charge’ rhetoric both sets up women leadership as a future scapegoat – ‘See we put a woman in charge and she messed up so I guess that was a bad idea’ – and men as incorrigible ne’er do wells who can’t be expected to behave properly, so at least we know what we’re getting. This dynamic sets up a societal shrug to men’s misbehavior, and total condemnation of the failings of women which will naturally occur when women share a spot at the table.

Studies do show some great benefits when qualified women leaders share or hold power. [One article]

I’m here for that.

I support that.

Raise the expectations for our menfolk.

Allow woman to come into power as human beings.

Stop this nonsense damaging rhetoric.

Thank you,


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Podcast Stats

Here’s some of the stats for this year. I know I haven’t posted a new episode in a while, as I am pursing other avenues of sharing and earning, but for those of you who listened and shared the episodes I did put out there into the world, thank you.

I earned less than two dollars doing this: 9 hours of talking about things I think matter, and trying to put something out there to help the world. I’m grateful for the opportunity. I have zero regrets about having spent my time this way.

I’m not sure whether or not I will try to keep this going next year. What I do know is that I won’t be able to if I don’t secure some funding for my life. That I need to pay my bills, and earn a living are at the forefront of my concern these days.

Keep me in your thoughts as I navigate this tricky curve in the path of life.

If you’d like to listen to past episodes, you can find them here.

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Wendy Says Things Episode 2 Part 2.5 is Out Now

On Wendy Says Things, we have been talking with Tonya, a health and wellness practitioner, and long time activist. There’s still time to catch up on the podcasts before part 3 of Episode 2 comes out. There are plenty of resources, articles, and links in the show notes.

If you’re here for the poetry, more will be coming soon!

There are no coincidences, they are spiritually aligned events falling into the pattern as they were meant to.” ~ Tonya Floyd

And so, what we do is we minimize things that happened in the past that were traumatic. We use nostalgia to distance ourselves from the things in the past that we could bring forward that are positive when we should be doing the opposite. You know, with our traumas we could bring them forward to heal. With the things that are nourishing, we can bring them forward to nourish us.” ~ Wendy Kheiry