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The Dangerous Rhetoric of “Just Put a Woman in Charge”

There are so many things wrong with this thinking that for a long time I could barely process it. I did what I usually do with overwhelming stupidity, and placed it on a back burner to let it reduce into a coherent flavorful reduction.

This phrase/thinking is bad for men, bad for women, and bad for society.

Let’s unpack first how it’s bad for women.

Some feminist women love this phrase. Marginalized for so long from power, they are starving for a chance to prove themselves in power, and this phrase suggests blindly turning over power to any woman, every woman, at every turn any time, any place etc. Are you beginning to see how troubling this is?

For people, and often I hear this from men who want to be seen as feminists or disenfranchised women who have perhaps not met women in charge, whom this is the benchmark, one mistake, a wrong turn, one peep of a human failing and the whole ideology collapses to become ‘never again.’

When we say we want equality, it must mean equal accountability, equal forgiveness for mistakes, equal understanding that not every woman will bring the same level of intelligence, experience, and abilities to every power position, therefore we must consider these things when choosing our powerful woman leaders in politics, business, and society.

This rhetoric is a trap for woman. Do not buy into it.

This rhetoric is bad for men. It dismisses an entire gender as incapable of doing better, and therefore absolves men from having to do the work. The real work. Men who ‘cannot be trusted with power because they are men’ do not have to learn empathy, compassion, flexibility. They do not have to become better feminists, less racist, less patriarchal because ‘Gee, they’re men and can’t help it, so just let the women handle it.’

This rhetoric is a copout for men. Do not buy into it.

Society needs to make changes, and polarism is not good for a central starting point. For the above reasons combined, the ‘Just put a woman in charge’ rhetoric both sets up women leadership as a future scapegoat – ‘See we put a woman in charge and she messed up so I guess that was a bad idea’ – and men as incorrigible ne’er do wells who can’t be expected to behave properly, so at least we know what we’re getting. This dynamic sets up a societal shrug to men’s misbehavior, and total condemnation of the failings of women which will naturally occur when women share a spot at the table.

Studies do show some great benefits when qualified women leaders share or hold power. [One article]

I’m here for that.

I support that.

Raise the expectations for our menfolk.

Allow woman to come into power as human beings.

Stop this nonsense damaging rhetoric.

Thank you,


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New Song: A Truth and a Lie

Song: A truth and a Lie

They say guns are not the problem
And it’s true another black man died
60 bullets in his back
And it’s a lie mass shooting at the mall
At the school Uvalde where they hide

They say guns are not to blame and it’s a truth
Domestic violence and some 80 proof (whiskey) one could admit
No protection from the paper that was writ
Guns are not to blame and it’s just another lie
When youth can walk into a store, no training and walk out again he’s armed

Guns are our constitutional right it’s not untrue that there’s a clause for the population to have an excuse to bear
But it’s a lie that there should be no regulation or oversight

About the babies they say they they are pro-life up until they’re born or to save a mother’s life and so it’s the god forsaken motherfucking truth and it’s a lie

And the one side dithers righteously about how they’re better than the other and it’s a truth
And it’s a lie
They refuse to take a deeper look in their closets where they hide
The reasons that the other side can and do entrench and build and gain

And they comb their cocktail hair and put on their cocktail gowns
They all strut before us in a line of union and union-busting clowns
Like the boyfriend or the girlfriend or the theyfriend who will do no more than be just slightly better than your ex
And expect your full devotion knowing well the slim prospects

And the climates heating up and they say they really care
But when it comes to changing
point the finger over there
And I finally understood
That I finally know the truth
That it’s a lie
And it’s the truth
They’ve buried and they’ve hidden all the truth under the lie
And the lie upon the dung hill sipping wine and eating pie
And sell us all the same old shit
We’ve been hearing all along
And shrug and say it’s true that it is wrong
And it’s a lie that they’ve told us and they tell us
And that why the feeling people
The empaths and the impoverished have to cry and weep
And gnash the teeth worn down from the gnashing and the bearing and the injustice of it all
Because justice is a truth that in America’s a lie
Another lie painted over the motherfucking truth
But I don’t have proof
No I don’t have proof no
Nor an alibi
So when they serve the shot of silence
Force it down my throat
Just know that I’ll be grateful when I die
Justice gets us all alive in the end
And that’s the truth
But I don’t have proof